Prior to writing
Think: Consider the color or tone of the funeral speech: Due to the circumstances, this needs to be low-key, but you can use some elements of humor in your funeral speech. Make sure any funny anecdotes you bring into the eulogy are subtle and suited to a somber occasion.
Research: Speak with close friends and family members of the deceased. Take notes as you find out about the beliefs, hobbies and passions of the deceased.
Read: Study examples of eulogies so that compose yours in a similar format. Keep your eye open for poems, verses and readings that could start or conclude the memorial speech.
Outline: An outline is the most convenient way to put your materials and ideas in a logical order. Be flexible in the outline and rearrange it until it is optimal.
How to write the opening of the eulogy:
There are numerous resources available with on step-by-step methods to compose a eulogy. Below are some suggestions for the start, middle and closing of the eulogy.
1. Greet and mention to the audience how you share their grief and sense of loss. Tell them who you are and how you know or were related to the deceased.
2. Share with other mourners, just how you are feeling; this will help them identify with you.
3. Begin with an inspirational reading or poem. If you don’t know suitable poem, you can find books and online resources that will provide you with poems, quotes, and passages that are perfect for a memorial service.
4. Share a memory: Talk about a event or a situation that involved much of the audience, like a large wedding or a family reunion. You can share something more personal, but make sure that the audience can relate to what you are telling them.
Writing the middle of the eulogy
You have the most freedom with what you say in the middle of the eulogy. Try to cover the key accomplishments, and milestones in the life of the departed during this part of the funeral speech. Use the allocated time, but be careful not to go over time.
Be certain that everything you talk about, reflects well on the character of the departed. Mention the important relationships which they were invested in, and how they will be missed.
The end of the eulogy
When your time is almost up, address the family of the departed, and request the community to be understanding in this time of loss. A reading or poem may make an ideal conclusion to the memorial service.
You should revise your speech, until it is polished and your are comfortable with the content. For further ideas and information about composing and presenting a funeral tribute, click here.